Tuesday, 27 December 2011

Depression and Christmas

Probably two of the most disparate concepts you can encounter; Depression and Christmas.
I have been fortunate this year and have managed to actually enjoy a lot of Christmas, but I know and remember how difficult Christmas can be when depression has a strong hold on you and your life. There's something about all the joy, jubilation and celebration in other people that can compound your depression and make you feel even more isolated from those around you. As jollity is expected at Christmas you can also find that other peoples reactions to you and your depression become less understanding; terms like Scrooge and Grinch are really unhelpful.
I really wish I could offer some good, helpful, constructive advice for how to deal with this, but I don't think I can. The best I can say is that, if people make you feel pressured to be happy just because it's Christmas, it's probably just because they care about you and want you to enjoy this time of year as much as they do. Now, that isn't always possible, I know, I'm not saying you should fake enjoyment to get people off your back. Try and find the things about the season that at least bring you peace if not joy; a slice of chocolate log (there should be no food related guilt at Christmas lol), a walk in a park that is deserted while everyone else in indoors, a tacky Christmas film. You should make yourself your priority, but do try to let those around you know how you feel, what you need and why you're doing what you do, so they don't misunderstand and get frustrated. If you need an afternoon to yourself that is ok, but explain that so that people don't think you're just being antisocial, and try not to completely cut yourself off, as depression breeds in solitude.

An important step in beating depression is understanding what you need and what makes you happy.

Unfortunately, I've always found New Year harder to deal with than Christmas, and I've still got that to deal with, but the same principles still apply.
I hope you are coping with the festive season as best you can. If you feel alone and like no-one understands, please use this blog as a reminder that that isn't true; so many people experience the same or similar feelings and there is always hope for getting better, even if you can't always see it. If you need to talk, to vent sadness, frustration, anger, anything, please do feel free to drop me an email  at betty_leopard@hotmail.co.uk or even leave a comment below, my followers are lovely and understanding people :)

I wish you all the best,

1 comment:

  1. I have a sort of love/hate relationship with New Year. I love the parties and all that, but it's the actual end of the year that I hate, I always feel like I've wasted a year and all that so I end up crying after midnight. I feel a bit ridiculous, but I feel kinda better I'm not the only one! Hope New Year was ok for you xxx